My Daughter Always Came Back from School Sad And Her Reason Made Me Divorce My Husband
For nine years, I believed I was in a loving marriage.
Nathan and I married young, right after high school, with big dreams of building a life together.
“We’ll grow together, Dani,” he said. “We’ll study, build careers, and have the life we’ve always dreamed of.”
And for a while, he stuck to those promises. We worked hard, and two years into our marriage, we welcomed our daughter, Ellie. She’s seven now, full of life, and the light of my world.
But somewhere along the way, our marriage began to crack. Nathan started criticizing me more—my appearance, my role as a mother, even the way I balanced work and taking care of Ellie.
“You’ve let yourself go, Dani,” he said one night. “You wear the same frumpy clothes every day. Do you think that’s how you keep a marriage alive?”
The hurt of those words cut deep, but it didn’t stop there. He questioned my dedication as a mom because I worked from home, implying that I wasn’t doing enough for Ellie.
“You’re always glued to that computer,” he said. “Do you even pay attention to Ellie? She’s always alone when I come home.”
At first, I fought back. I spoke up for myself, defended my choices, but eventually, I got tired. Tired of the constant criticism, tired of the endless arguments.
“Do what you want,” I muttered one evening, as I went to put Ellie to bed, already weary of the next confrontation.
Then something shifted. Nathan’s behavior changed. He was suddenly more tolerable, even kind at times. I assumed it was because of the new job offer he’d received in another city. Maybe this move would be the fresh start we needed.
I didn’t mind relocating—my work was flexible, and Ellie was still young.
“It’s a fresh start for us,” Nathan said, packing up our life into boxes. “This will be good, I promise.”
And for a while, I believed him. He found a great school for Ellie, handled the logistics of the move, and seemed to be making an effort. I started to feel hopeful again.
But a few weeks after we settled in, Ellie began coming home from school upset. At first, she wouldn’t tell me why, brushing off my questions. Then one afternoon, I found her crying in her room.
“Honey, what’s wrong?” I asked, sitting beside her.
“I don’t want Miss Allen to be my mother!” she sobbed. “I want you to be my mom!”
Her words sent a chill down my spine. Miss Allen was Ellie’s teacher.
“Why would Miss Allen be your mom?” I asked gently.
Ellie wiped away her tears, hesitating before answering. “Yesterday, when Dad picked me up from school, Miss Allen told me to wait while she talked to him. I didn’t hear everything, but I heard her say she’d be a better mom for me… and Dad laughed.”
The floor seemed to fall away from beneath me. Everything clicked—the sudden niceness, the move, the job opportunity. My gut told me the truth I had been avoiding: Nathan was having an affair.
That evening, after putting Ellie to bed, I confronted Nathan. I handed him a drink and tried to stay calm.
“So,” I began, “Ellie’s teacher, Miss Allen, seems to have quite the bond with her.”
Nathan’s eyes lit up. “Yeah, Ellie really likes her.”
“Enough for Miss Allen to think she should be Ellie’s new mom?” I asked, my voice steely. “What’s going on, Nathan? And don’t lie to me.”
The color drained from his face. His guilty expression said it all before he even opened his mouth. He admitted to having an affair—one that had started before we moved but ended when the new job opportunity came up. But it hadn’t taken long for him to find someone new. He and Miss Allen had been seeing each other for two weeks before Ellie overheard their conversation.
The betrayal was suffocating, but I knew what I had to do. The next morning, I confronted Miss Allen at the school. She denied everything, of course, but it didn’t matter. I pulled Ellie out of the school immediately and transferred her somewhere new. She deserved to be in a safe, supportive environment, far from the drama of her father’s affair.
A divorce was inevitable. And while it was painful, it was also a relief. Our marriage had been over long before I was ready to admit it. Now, I could focus on Ellie, making sure she felt loved and secure.
It’s been a few months since the divorce process started, and Ellie is thriving. She’s forgotten about Miss Allen and adores her new teacher. Nathan still sees her regularly, and despite everything, we’ve made sure she knows that she is loved by both of us.
As for me? I’ve learned to rebuild my life, piece by piece, and Ellie is at the heart of it all.
Have you ever gone through something similar?